Saturday, June 16, 2012

The secret of FUN

It is NOT our duty to be a worried stressed out person, it does NOT show we are more responsible, in fact it's SIN.  I know this is messing with someone's theology, but...

God makes his people strong. God gives his people peace.  Psalms 29:11 (The Message)

Definition of Peace:  
- Freedom from disquieting or oppressive thoughts or emotions
- Harmony in personal relations

Fun is a path to PEACE
Taking the time for fun brings peace. I know it's not the ONLY way, but it's one that's often overlooked.  When we're in a difficult situation, we out of duty want to plow through to the solution, but sometimes the solution is found in taking a step back, clearing our head, and having some fun.

I know this topic may seem unnecessary to mention for some...but believe it or not, many people forget the VITAL NEED of rest, idle "chit chat" or down right laughter.

I know from experience that it's very easy to go about the day to day activities - work, chasing of kids, school, laundry,...over & over...and the next thing you know you're asking if your husband has to go "potty" or if you can give him a snack of "cheerios".  

Oh my - time to unwind!  The secret is, if you take some fun time for yourself, you are a BETTER mom, BETTER wife, BETTER employee, BETTER follower of Jesus.  So it's really more of a NECESSITY, than a luxury.

Growing up, I had a lot of strife, sickness, and stress.  A neighbor family took me under their wing during the hard times, and introduced me to Play I'm HOOKED! 

Fun is the GLUE
Fun time is vital to Marriages.  Think about it...silly time is what brings two people together, but somehow there is a shift in mentality after some time that says, "Now its all work", when in fact THAT mentality will break a marriage down. Having fun is in fact a GLUE that will keep a marriage together.  

When our family hits a time of stress, we of course do our due-diligence to obey God's leading and navigating, but most often He reminds me that part of the path is to have some family fun time. 

Whether we giggle over a board game, have ice cream in a park, or take a walk and laugh at the 8 lb dog pulling our daughter on her scooter, it acts as a spiritual & emotional pressure release to our stress.  

Fun is the VICTORY
God is a God of relationship, and He created them to be a part of our NECESSARY everyday life - for our sake, as well as the Kingdom's sake.  

Christ's greatest commandment is to "Love the Lord our God with all our hearts, AND, Love others as yourself" Matthew 22:37-39...which would undoubtedly require relationship. 

Back to FUN...can ANYONE have relationship without some fun laced into it?  It truly is the healing glue - for our individual health, as well as a blessing to those we're sowing relationship into. 

God helps bring so much VICTORY into our lives when we surround ourselves with FUN & FELLOWSHIP. It's a time of breaking formalities & being real with ourselves, and others.  It breaks the tension of doing things "perfect", and allows us to unwind - and we (far easier) see stressful situations with a clearer mind & from God's perspective when our mind is in a place of rest.

Some may think they don't have the money to have any family or "date night" FUN - below I'm offering some ideas...

Penny Pinching ideas
- Pack up an outdoor picnic 
- Tour historic buildings or factories 
- Take a nature walk & pick flowers
- Go to a bookstore
- Ice cream date

Be a Blessing ideas
 - Buy flowers & give them to a random person on the street
-  Visit a nursing home 
-  Go volunteer at a local animal shelter
-  Do some neighborly service: Rake leaves, plant flowers or shovel snow for a neighbor
-  Volunteer at a local soup kitchen 

The End Result to "Fun" 
When our mind & heart are at peace, we are more inclined to overflow.  You can't help but to share!  Stress is the biggest tactic against God's people from fulfilling the greatest commandment of loving one another.  You can't give what you don't have - so if you don't have joy, you have nothing to give.  

So don't feel bad, or that you are not doing your "duty" by being in a place of crisis or worry.  Take the time to find your peace and joy.  HAVE FUN - so you can be the CONTAGIOUS TANGIBLE LOVE OF JESUS & give that joy to others.


  1. Love your attitude! Great post! Thank you for visiting my blog and leaving an encouraging word! Please consider stopping by on Friday and linking up this post for my TGIF Link Up! :)

    1. In one of my favorite marriage books, "His Needs/Her Needs," the author identifies RECREATION as one of the most important components of a healthy marriage. And you're right in saying that we get so busy with the responsibilities of life that we forget to have fun, especially with our spouses. Thanks so much for the reminder. I'm glad I hopped over from Be Not Weary (

  2. That IS a GREAT book!! Thank YOU for the encouragement, and for stopping over.


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