5 tips to bring "The power of RANDOM"

During birthdays or holidays, we do our best to remember those we love - gifts, cards, phone calls, emails, Facebook Messages...  If we are going to take the time to honor someone, that's the best time to do it, right?

There is MUCH more impact & power in randomness;  

In a person thinking of, and honoring someone JUST BECAUSE!

Recently a beautiful young lady spent HER birthday honoring people.  19 acts of kindness for her 19th birthday.  Our family was one of the recipients...

I KNOW I don't have to explain how my family felt (you guessed it - I bawled like a baby).  When we received our package, we were reminded to pause, eat some candy and have family silly time.  We wouldn't have otherwise that day - but it was an ordained moment where God spoke through our friend & her gift to remind us that a way through stress is taking time for fun...and most of all, WE ARE LOVED.

As the body of Christ, we need each other.  We need her, she needs us & our family needs each other...

God is always working on our behalf, and working through us and others to work on His behalf.  

Because we live in the self-help society, we tend to muscle through our situations, but it's like a deep fresh breath blown on us when receive support from others.  



 And the flip side is, when we take time out of our stresses, life & rat-race to focus on others, we are fulfilling the scripture mandate.  God gives His love FREELY and without stipulation, all He asks is that we give it away, and remind others of this love.

Some tips to bring this amazing power to others...

1. Make a dinner for a family - not because they're in need, but just because.
2. Send a card in the mail to someone you haven't spoken with in a while - just because.
3. Give a card & gift certificate to offer babysitting - just because.
4. Give a Starbucks gift card (or ice cream - yum!) - just because.
5. Send encouragement card to pastor, missionary, or boss - just because.

What if we were to do what my friend did for her birthday, for Valentine's Day...celebrate it by celebrating others???  

If you have a significant other - do it together! Find someone (or many) who needs to be riminded they are LOVED.

Healing between mother & daughter

Growing up, I had a very rough relationship with my mom.  She was ill since I was very young & I was strong-willed, and hurt...it was a potent mix to say the least.

When I was in college, she made a (directional) decision that I didn't agree with.  I regret how I handled it...in a strong-willed "know it all" immature attitude.  My mom basically wrote me off because she was so hurt.  Was I right in my stance?  YES.  Did I handle it with love, mercy & compassion? NO.

I lost my mom.

But GOD...

Right after that, I went to school with YWAM.  I knew I was going to have a lot of airplane/sit on my rear time, so I bought a project.  I found my mom's favorite poem as a cross stitch to do as a prayer project.

When I am an old woman, I shall wear PURPLE with a red hat that doesn't go & doesn't suit me...by Jenny Joseph (I did customize it a little to suit my mom)

When I am an old woman I shall wear purple  

with a red hat that doesn't go and doesn't suit me. 

And I shall spend my pension on new "favorite sweaters" 

and more shoes and say we have no money for butter.

I shall sit down on the pavement when I'm tired 

and gobble up samples in shops, and press alarm bells, 

and run my stick along the public railing, 

and make up for the sanity of my youth. 

I shall go out in my slippers in the rain, 

and pick the flowers in other people's gardens, 

and learn to spit. 

You can wear terrible shirts, and grow more fat, 

and eat three pounds of sausage at a go, 

or fresh bread and pickles for a week, 

and hoard pens and pencils and notepaper, and things in boxes, 

but now we must have clothes that keep us dry, and pay our rent, 

and not swear in the street, and set a good example for the children. 

We will have friends to dinner, and read the paper, 

but maybe I ought to practice a little now, 

so people who know me are not too shocked and surprised 

when suddenly I am old and I start to wear purple.

So for plane hours, and "quiet times", I'd prayerfully stitch this poem together for her.

I had hard moments, because while on the mission field, I'd call my mom to "test the waters" - NOPE, she still wouldn't receive me. "What IS the point???" would be my thoughts; I'd want to burn the cross stitch feeling like I was doing it for nothing and God was NOT answering my prayers - but back to the cross stitch I'd go in prayer for her, me, healing, forgiveness, our relationship, & peace.

I knew if I dwelt on MY feelings, I'd be angry, hurt, and stay in a place of un-forgiveness. So I needed to be ACTIVE in working towards healing, and stay in a place of petitioning God for restoration.  It's impossible to stay angry when you're working towards, and praying for healing.  You look either one way or the other.

When I got home months later, I gave my mom a call. Without any explanation, venting, or angry blow-up, there was instant peace between us - the peace that passes all understanding.  I didn't have to agree with her to love & accept her.

I had the poem framed, and gave it to her as a Mother's Day gift.  From then to the day she suddenly died the following year, my mom & I had a beautiful time of healing & friendship between us.

Now this poem hangs in my home as a reminder that 

prayer works

And you NEVER know how long you have

with loved ones,

treat them like 

there is NO TOMORROW

It's too often that people settle for dysfunctional or estranged relationships. They just turn a blind eye, or write each other off, yet Matthew 5 is so clear:

^23-24 “This is how I want you to conduct yourself in these matters. If you enter your place of worship and, about to make an offering, you suddenly remember a grudge a friend has against you, abandon your offering, leave immediately, go to this friend and make things right. Then and only then, come back and work things out with God.

That's pretty serious!

I know it's easier to forget the person rather than deal with the rift, but forgetting about the issue breeds un-forgiveness under the surface - growing like a fungus in our hearts.

It is not possible to have good emotional health while harboring bitterness, resentment and unforgiveness. Unforgiveness is poison! - Joyce Meyer

Here's the other favorite piece on my wall...

The nature of love has within itself

The power to endure the immaturity, ignorance, 

and offense of people,

And still see them in the light of their destiny and purpose.

Love will always see the divine value that each person has.

And love will always value the intimacy it has with each person regardless of their immaturity.

Lee Rollins - The Treasure Within.

The biggest lesson I learned from my experience growing up is that people do the very best they can with the tools they have.  Often people don't have all the tools they need, so their response is not the best - but we need to view them with compassion.  Isn't that what we're asking for when we make mistakes?